Thriving Through the Feelings and Emotions that Surface From Our Different Aspects
Senses like eyes, ears, emotions and feelings are endowed for a reason. Because we live in a society that has encouraged us to push selected “negative” emotions away or to suppress them “aspects” develop and hold expressions that we might have been taught to deny. Under stress, however, our aspects have knee jerk reactions and often pop up unfiltered especially if you are tired or under unusual stress. If you have never understood this or even known yourself in this light then it might be a leap for you to actually consider that emotions and feelings expressed by these aspects can be valued and ultimately understood. Perhaps thinking of them as indicator lights on a dash board might be helpful. Would you snip these wires to the lights that would tell you that you are out of gas, water or oil and risk having your car break down?
The lights on your personal dashboard are your emotions and feelings that are simply acting as guides alerting you to something. Learning to be present and ok with our internal emotional states allows them to pass through us and our lives leaving room for new interpretations. This process asks us to feel our “ states” not to drug them or suppress them, only then can we actually liberate emotional energies to higher understanding and begin to function with clarity and intentionality.
Divorce is a highly external process that you may or may not be able to govern, however, feeling into what you are feeling can shift your internal landscape a place where you can have direct influence because it is unique to you. A way to work with your aspects when they begin to surface is to remain curious. Try this next time uncomfortable or intense feelings/emotions arise: I wonder why I feel this way? I wonder what this emotion/ feeling, aspect is trying to get me to see? Does this aspect have a need to be seen, heard, understood or have a voice?
Do you recognize different aspects? Have you ever tried to remain curious about what you are feeling? What did you discover?
Let me know,
To your well being,,
The Tao Report
Dr. Susan